AND. Life Isn’t Simple.

Our favorite couple's therapist, Estefi, comes back to wrap up an introduction to attachment theory by reviewing fearful-avoidant and secure attachment styles and how that shows up in relationships. This is an episode I could listen to over and over. 
TW: Mentions of self-harm & abuse.
Resources:
www.militaryonesource.com
www.cdc.gov/suicide/resources/index.html
The Attachment Style Questionnaire and Study! : 
https://www.yourpersonality.net/attachment/?fbclid=IwAR3N-5jxKqowW4Slj-HSOBDQugdRsOtQ0hLLC8WAUScxnJnq25l6rH0U5UA

When a community starts using humor to cope with hard circumstances, what options would leadership of any sort have? What types of actions are helpful, and what types of actions make it substantially worse? 
 
We explore this on a sociological and psychological level and poke fun at situations like this as a whole. Because smashing the lives of people for making stress-relieving jokes that most people actually really enjoyed would never happen in real life, right? Allegedly. 

The very vague discussion about a thing that allegedly happened on a base and what it even means for a community to make jokes in this way. 
Explicit warning: We use the term "tw*tswatted" a lot. 
 
The episode was up and then taken down, but now it's up for good. 

No diagnose-ment going on here. A discussion on two of the attachment styles, a quiz to find out yours, and listen to Noel get a little therapy of her own. Part 2 is coming out soon, where we connect this to military lifestyles and go over the goals of learning your own attachment style. 

We go to Reddit to get your stories, questions, and comments- and boy, do we answer.
 
Thank you for being so patient over summer break! We hope you enjoy.
 
 

Back by popular demand, we have Estefanía Ospina-Alikhan LMFT on to talk about relationships, communication, and connection. We laugh, we cry, we talk about throwing elbows. A good time was had by all, and I'm so excited for you to check this out too. 
What is a six-second kiss, and what does it do?
In what ways can we maintain connection when our spouse is so far away?
How does this relate to family back home?
We discuss all of this, and more. 
 

Following our breakdown of the term "Dependa," we get into the story of Six Jane- the self-promoted face of all things active duty, shaming the Dependas of the world. But who is she? And why was everything she was doing so far beyond wrong it's almost unbelievable?
Follow this journey into the rise and downfall of social media fame of mythic proportions.  
Also- we don't math. Don't come at us when you catch that. Or do- but do so in Patreon. Patreon.com/andpodcast

This episode was so juicy we split it into TWO.
In this half, we introduce the term "Dependa," where it comes from, and some of the issues that come with it. 
All of this to explain and set you up for a WHOLE RIDE in the next episode. 

Would it even be us if we didn't make psychology fun and sidestep it with inappropriate stories on smashing the patriarchy? 
Join us for this ride, where we talk about interesting motivation theories and concepts and how it builds more effective leadership, tell stories about dragging the best out of people, and, to quote my fav Dropkick Murphys song, tell you how to "Smash Shit Up." 
 

The episode of embarrassing stories because the original intention turned into an embarrassing story. You'll laugh so hard you'll cry, we know we did. 
 
Back to psychology and military next week, folks. Enjoy the shenanigans.